The new dating story
There is some solace in being haunted for anyone who's not quite over a breakup, or who wants to believe the ghost might come back from the dead.As much as she's spooked by her ghost, Sarah would be even more spooked if he suddenly left. "This is the only way I know that he still thinks about me, even if it's for the eight-second story.I'm 100 percent not over it, and this allows me a little imaginative space to think that he's maybe a teensy bit not over it too." You get used to anything, even a haunting, if it lingers long enough.Maybe that's the goal of all ghosts — they just want to stay close enough to know we're not moving on without them, and close enough to ensure we'll really miss them when they finally leave.For instance, if he hasn’t called when he said he would and he’s expecting you to be pissed but you’re too breezy and carefree to be — you’re laughing at his joke on social media and looking like you don’t give a damn. It’s about not letting your negative feelings get the better of you.
It felt like a very clean break for what had been an extremely casual fling. Three weeks later, as I was scrolling to see who'd watched an Instagram story I made about a new haircut, I noticed something eerily out of place — Instagram handle.
Sarah doesn't know why her ghost still keeps up with her life all these months later, but she'd never consider asking him why he keeps watching her very public Snapchat story.
Trying to confront and banish your ghost can only backfire.
They'd been out twice, there wasn't a ~love connection~, and Kate ended it by neglecting to reply to a vague text from Becca.
The two had followed each other on Instagram on the second (and final) date, and Becca stopped liking Kate's photos once text communication was cut off — but she was still often the first to view her Snap and Instagram stories. "It felt fairly deliberate to me, her viewing the story was like a little, 'Hi, I still exist! "You can't text them again after ghosting, because it could string them along or open that can of worms you wanted shut in the first place," she said.
It's some little reminder, in the form of a phone notification, that they once existed (to you) and that ending things with a person doesn't mean they don't exist anymore.