Biblical dating guide
Guys, tell her why you have initiated or are initiating with her, tell her that you intend to pursue the relationship to determine if marriage is the right choice before God.
In my view, this establishing of intentions should be done near the beginning of any exclusive or romantic time spent together — preferably within the first two or three “dates” during a deliberate conversation on the subject.
Let me say it again: We’re trying to make intentions clear, here, not asking anyone to commit to go the distance with no information.
If the pastor or elder you ask doesn’t know him well, he can guide you to a trustworthy source that knows him better.Ladies, as uncomfortable as this may sound for the guys, you might be in a difficult position here as well, depending on how well you know the man initiating with you. Then I’d ask, have you had any chance at all to see him in group settings, or do you know him by reputation?If you don’t have even information at that level, feel free to tell him that you want some time to think and pray about it (that is, if you’re not sure at that point that you’re not interested).If you feel that you are not initially attracted to a man who initiates with you, OK — but at least ask yourself why that is.Are you considering biblical characteristics in that decision?
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